Some of you may already be acquainted with the terms “Glitch, Dilemma, and Catastrophe.” When we find ourselves dysregulated and reacting harshly, it can be helpful to ask ourselves “Is this a glitch, a dilemma or a catastrophe?” This can help us adjust our reaction accordingly. We can apply this mindset to our relationships when we are angry, annoyed, and feeling at our wits end with our partner. Hit the pause button (I know we say this a lot but this simple act can make a huge difference in how we feel and may set the tone and trajectory of a conversation). Notice what is it that is aggravating you and ask yourself “Is what I am upset about a preference, a desire, or am I clinging to a thought or idea that I cannot change?” Adjusting one’s response to a desire or a preference can help us feel better and put things into perspective. Is what is bothering me “really worth this reaction I am having?” How important is this? Are you clinging to an idea, wish or desire that maybe cannot be? As the Buddha teaches, clinging is a form of suffering of our own making. It seems that in the world we live in today, our baseline levels of stress and reactivity are higher than ever. We are challenged with stark realities we have never been faced with before. Now more than ever it behooves us to practice discernment between what is really a glitch, dilemma or catastrophe. What is really a preference, desire or are a clinging or attachment to a particular outcome? In moments when we need a release, relief from our strong emotions, take a breath, hit the pause button, and ask yourself “What is really important?” We need to Remember to Remember, “What REALLY matters!”

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