As Marriage Counselors, we run into many clients who are disgruntled with their lots in life. While on the treadmill of life, they insist that somehow, it should be easier and more rewarding. A question which frequently comes up in our work with couples is, "Why is it so difficult?" In the old days, we remember our parents' marriages and especially our grandparents' and note that these were simpler times. Our grandparents did not complain about "lack of communication" or wanting more "connection." Coming out of the Great Depression and WWII, there was a "hard work" and "grateful to be alive" mentality. These are truly unforgiving times. Couples are spent just from child rearing demands alone. Parents put all their energy into raising the kids and there is very little left over for "couple time" or time to fill one's own reservoir. It seems that everyone is overcommitted and exhausted. It might sound cliche but now more than ever we need to slow down and take time out from the rat race of life. Try and support one another while trying to meet the demands and challenges of life in 2025!

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